In today's world the dating scene can be pretty tricky. While many people do want a long-term relationship many of us find ourselves in the bars or other places where drug induced love is prominent. Yes, these venues can generate relationships, some even lasting, but the reality is so many of us believe that the bar scene will not generate a long lasting relationship that we will ourselves into one nights stands, heartbreak and disappointment. A popular alternative has become online dating. Generating an online profile will not help rid you of any social disorders, it will not connect you with an abundance of great looking people with whom you have everything in common.
The people online are the same people out in the "real" world. Do not be fooled into the misconception that by filling out an online profile you will be cured of your dating woes and live happily ever after with the one you love. Many people tend to be just as disappointed with online dating (after the initial high has worn off) as they were dating in the "real" world. Now, before I completely discourage you and you sentence yourself to a world of solitude, confined to your apartment with your cat, please note that there are ways you can find happiness and find your true love online by being honest with yourself about who you are and what you want. I have included a few tips I have learned through trial and error with online dating. A majority of the men I've dated have made these mistakes or have told me about a "horror" dating story where their partner made the mistake.
My first world of advice is to find a recent, accurate profile picture. Unfortunately, we live in a world where image does mean something. Plus, we all have an idea of the type of person we are attracted to. If you truly want to find the right person for you then you must be comfortable
with yourself. Posting a profile picture could prevent future heartbreak when you meet someone. The ultimate goal is to find someone right for you, trying to trick them into believing you look different than you actually do will only create distrust and will most likely not get you a second date. Physical chemistry is very important in dating relationships, especially in the beginning when you don't have much else to go off of. Be true to yourself and post a recent picture that accurately portrays you, in addition no skin please. Guys, you might love your biceps but nothing is more of a turnoff for a girl who wants a relationship than a guy showing off his topless body online. It portrays an image that is not appropriate for lasting relationships. Save it for the bedroom.
My second word of advice is everything in moderation. When writing a good profile you want to keep it succinct and to the point. There are very few people who will read a page long profile unless it is especially attention grabbing. Don't go into detail about your spring break trip to South Padre Island and the tiki bar with the free tequila shots. This might be a great story but it will most likely reveal too much too fast. Instead you could mention how you like to travel and have fun with friends. The purpose of this profile is to give a general idea of who you are so people can determine if you fit their needs.
Third, always be honest in your profile. If you don't want to address it then don't mention it. If you are going to address it then make sure you are honest about it. I have dated a couple of men who stated they were not smokers and then light up on the first date. This is something someone WILL find out about you. It's best to be honest and upfront in the beginning. People are more likely to be forgiving to any bad habits before they meet you in person.
Fourth, always make sure you have clear goals. If you want a long-term relationship you had better be ready to put the effort into a long-term relationship. If you aren't ready to incorporate someone fully into your life and you want someone to hang out with and date occasionally then state that in your profile. You'd be surprised at how many people are ok with dating and not having a long-term relationship. Plus by being upfront about your goals and intentions you can eliminate a lot of what men call "relationship drama." Be honest and upfront the entire time.
Online dating definitely can be tricky and a little disheartening but if you follow these simple guidelines you are more likely to be successful at finding the one who's right for you. Just remember, know what you want, be honest and true to yourself and your date. You are sure to reach many more potential dates online than you would in day to day life. Have fun with it, enjoy yourself and maybe you'll meet the one for you.
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