Golfers are a passionate bunch. They love the game of golf and they love the challenge. Often times, single people who use online dating are a passionate bunch, and like many golfers, they enjoy the challenge.
Golf and online dating have a great deal in common.
When you start playing golf, it can be a very frustrating experience. There are many different things you have to concentrate on but most importantly, you should "just relax and hit the ball."
Golfers, despite overwhelming frustration they may experience when they first take up the game, commit themselves to learning the game and improving their skills. For some golfers, they come to love the game. Golfers are a patient group and often commit to years of practice with the objective of taking just a couple of strokes off their game.
Online dating can be just as frustrating as golf. Like golf, with online dating there are a number of things you have to "learn" before you can really see the success and benefits of the service.
If you have not tried online dating as a way to meeting new friends, you may want to look at golfers and observe the way they go about improving their game.
Most golfers who are very interested in becoming better are very quick to try a new club, a slightly different grip, a different stance or a different ball. Their philosophy of improvement seems to be based on a little bit here and a little bit there makes a big difference down the road.
If most single people approached online dating in this way, they would probably have more positive experiences; receive much more enjoyment and meet some very interesting people.
How many people join an online dating site, post the first profile that comes to mind and never make any additional changes. They sit back and wonder why nobody has contacted them. If golfers approached the game of golf in this way, it would be quite obvious their game would not improve.
Golfers are constantly making slight changes here and slight changes there and this should be the key lesson most people should apply to online dating.
If you are going to use an online dating service and you want to receive the greatest response, you should be constantly tweaking and improving your profile just like golfers try to improve their game.
Here are three quick things single people can do to help improve their online dating game.
Change Your Opening Line (Just like golfers change their stance)
Perhaps you should also give some thought to changing the opening line of your profile to grab more attention. Like a good news headline, a great opening line in a profile will help you grab more attention.
A little bit of humor in your profile can also go a very long way. One of the funniest opening lines I have recently read is "willing to lie about how we met."
Change Your Profile (just like golfers change their swing)
If you have posted a profile on an online dating site and nobody has made any effort to contact you, perhaps you may want to consider slightly changing your profile. One of the key mistakes people make in their online profile is saying the exact same thing that everybody else does. "I love movies, I love walking, I love cuddling..... yadda yadda yadda. Rather then saying what everybody else is saying, say something different. Tweak your profile. Consider mentioning something you have recently done or somewhere that you have been.
Change Your Picture
Survey after survey and poll after poll have all suggested that people who post a picture with their online profile, consistently get a greater response from other singles on the online dating site.
Some advice columnists who write about online dating suggest you should not even begin communication with someone online until you have seen their picture. Yes it is very easy for someone to use a different picture but with experience, you will begin to have a better understanding of which pictures are real and which ones are suspicious.
Golfers who are serious about their game make a commitment to improve through implementing small changes, while exercising a great deal of patience and perseverance. People using online dating sites could learn a great deal from golfers.
Just because you maybe initially disappointed with online dating does not mean online dating is a waste of time. Like anything in life, if we want to become better at something, we must have patience, perseverance and most importantly, a willingness to learn and try something new.
Approach online dating like golfers approach their game and it is only a matter of time before you start to break even. Just relax and hit the ball.
Gary Kelly is co-creator of the online dating website for golfers, http://www.DateAGolfer.com and http://www.PuttingForPar.com, a golf website specializing in personalized ball markers.
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